Ruffling feathers. Hold on a second, I do understand that sometimes both parents MUST work just to pay the mortgage/rent and get food on the table. We all know that. Sometimes one parent doesn't make enough to cover necessary expenses, b...
Ruffling feathers. Hold on a second, I do understand that sometimes both parents MUST work just to pay the mortgage/rent and get food on the table. We all know that. Sometimes one parent doesn't make enough to cover necessary expenses, bills, student loans, sometimes you are the only provider and a brave single mom or dad. Things happen. Life happens.If you are that parent and daycare is the only way out for you, please close this. Stop reading. I don't want to make you feel any more guilty. Do what you need to do. Carry on. I want to talk to the rest of us. The parents that rely on a second income for stuff. To pay for a second car, a nice house, for cable, the latest electronic gadgets, a decent wardrobe, dining out, for shopping organic, nice vacations, for having your kids well-dressed. For your kids' piano class, ballet, gymnastics, martial arts, art class, private school, and Lego club. The parents that need a second income for things that aren't necessarily necessary. Something made me think today about how we spend the time with our children, how I spend time with my children. Mothers all over the world loose children every day. Due to accidents, illness, or unfortunate events. If you were to ask such a mother what she would have done differently, what would she say or think?"I wish I spent more time with my children.""I wish I was more patient with my child.""I wish I didn't devote as much time to work.""I wish I told them 'I love you' more often.""I wish that time by the lake on a weekday I smelled the flowers with them, soaked in the smell of their sun kissed skin, and hugged them tighter instead of thinking of my 'to do' list."Ask any empty-nester if they regret not working long enough hours when their kids were younger.Do you see where I'm going?Of course, it doesn't have to be all or nothing. I know many moms, myself included, that find a way to be present in their kids' lives and make an income - whether it is part time or from-home. Moms are the most entrepreneurial bunch I know! There are mom-owned businesses spring up like mushrooms everywhere. In the throes of raising children - we're forced to be inventive and it pays.We gave up a lot for me to stay home. We've also gained so much more - so much that cannot be measured in dollars. I'm mindful of what my children will remember me to be when they are grown. I don't want them to remember me as always busy, rushing, impatient, distant, consumed with work. I want to be present, patient, facing them when they speak, and not constantly saying "not now kids".I'm not here to make you feel guilty. I'm here to inspire a life worth living. I'm here to tell you there is more to life than the rat race and you know that. I'm here to remind myself that sometimes work can wait and there are things that matter much much more. I'm here to tell you that you can do just fine without all the 'extras' that the society around us tells us we must have. Stuff will not make us happy. Stuff does not make for a life worth living. Let's leave our stuff for building blossoming relationships with our children to impact the world through them or to just impact their world. We are the world to them.Are you willing to give up something today to spend more time with your children? What can you do to stop running through frantic schedules and pause to enjoy life more than just on the weekends or vacation?Does your family thrive more when you are a working mom? Do you find you need to work to stay sane?What's your ideal work/life balance situation?Top Mommy Blogs - Vote for us @ TopMommyBlogs.Com!
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