A blogging friend I have never met before is visiting, and after an early dinner with Brat Three, the two bloggers move to the sofa and are in a heated discussion, where we wholeheartedly agree with each other. The twenty year old Brat...

Sharing an email from a nineteen year old, Cautiously Optimistic. What would you say to reassure her? My response in italics. Hey IHM, I love your blog. But all the horrible news is making me a misanthrope. I feel like even though my par...

Sharing an email. Like Suja Jones in the previous post, this email writer also says she can understand why Indian women are driven to take their own lives.  Do we have clear laws against forced marriages? What are the options open to yo...

“He made bobo on my zheezhee (hurt my genitals).” “He put something filthy in my mouth.” “This is a nice uncle” (looking at a photo of a movie star) “Will he do bobo to me too?” “I should have heard, I should have known,” says her mother...

How do women (and men, and the society) benefit from women marrying men who earn more than they do and are older and more educated than they are?  “Most of the bride’s parents have a predetermined level of education and salar...

We are made happy Ordered in the evening, arrived the next afternoon It’s difficult impossible to open Flipkart packaging neatly! Everything must pass his scrutiny Taste and smell it just a little Birds of India: Om Fiel...

This is what the father in law (Naseeruddin Shah) plans in Triyacharitra (1994), a Hindi movie directed by Basu Chatterjee. The story in the movie seemed to be an example of what was possible (made possible by patriarchy) not something t...

This is what the father in law (Naseeruddin Shah) plans in Triyacharitra (1994), a Hindi movie directed by Basu Chatterjee. The story in the movie seemed to be an example of what was possible (made possible by patriarchy) not something t...

1. Happy whispers? Trying not to smile 1.1 2. Before… After  ;) 2.1 3 …And laughter… 4. 4.1 5. Sunny Deol steps… 6. Moon walking… 7. 8. 9.  And some more dancing 9.1 10. 10.1 11. 13. 14. ...

What does “I love women” mean? Does the person who says this, really love all the women in the world? Why? They can’t possibly know all the women in the world – then what makes them ‘love’ them all? Th...