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This question is from a Group Therapy post in our Community. Add your advice in the comments! We all have had bad relationships and wanted to take revenge at some point for being hurt by the one you love. I was eating lunch today and ...
This question is from a Group Therapy post in our Community. Add your advice in the comments! We all have had bad relationships and wanted to take revenge at some point for being hurt by the one you love. I was eating lunch today and a friend and I were talking about how much we hate cheaters. She told me a story of what she did to her boyfriend when she found out he was cheating. She didn't tell him she knew instead she talked him into getting a tattoo. She chose it so she wrote her name on paper and kissed the paper with heavy lipstick and had that tattooed on him. After it was all finished, which it took a couple visits to finish, she packed her stuff and said look I even kissed your ass good bye. So now he has her name and lips on his butt. Do y'all have any good stories? Have a question of your own? Post it anonymously in Group Therapy for advice!
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By Heather Sanders I turned 41 on Sunday. One of my birthday gifts was a song written, sung, and strummed by my middle child and younger daughter, Meredith.  It was a precious moment for both of us, but the truth is, there is a bit of a ...
By Heather Sanders I turned 41 on Sunday. One of my birthday gifts was a song written, sung, and strummed by my middle child and younger daughter, Meredith.  It was a precious moment for both of us, but the truth is, there is a bit of a story behind it. Though Jeff and I dislike the sense of entitlement kids and even young adults seem to have these days – something we feel was the result of the self-esteem movement of the early 80′s, we do strongly believe in the power and importance of daily vocalizing our heartfelt love and praise to the kids. As with many parents, we want to do right by the children we have been gifted, so through the years we chose to attend multiple parenting conferences, and read countless parenting books.  In the process, we trained our ears to listen to what the kids were saying as opposed to the words that actually spilled forth from their mouths.  Then, after learning about the differences in how individuals recognize, receive, and give love, we made it a point to understand and speak each of the kids’ love languages. And most recently, an awareness of how personality type affects homeschooling approaches, was the catalyst for an enlightening correspondence with Rob Toomey of Type-Coach.com who, after agreeing to speak with me more about this topic for a future post, briefly detailed how personality awareness allows parents to “recognize differences in their kids and then create the right space for them to develop fully.” Still, it was not until I read the chapter “The Inverse Power of Praise” in the book, Nurture Shock: New Thinking About Children, by PO Bronson and Ashley Merryman that I considered that some aspects of Jeff and my verbal praise may actually have a negative impact on our kids’ future confidence, growth and development. Not All Praise is Equal According to authors Bronson and Merryman there is a growing body of research suggesting that not all praise is equal; that in order to be effective, praise needs to be sincere and specific.   While sincerity is a requirement most parents grasp, we tend to generalize our praise and overlook the importance of specificity. Case in point: Meredith has been writing, singing and playing music for the past few years. Her Daddy and I are thrilled and frequently praise her privately and publicly, often using phrases like, “That was perfect! You are such a talented musician!” However, we began to notice a pattern of Meredith becoming inconsolably angry when she makes multiple errors on a piece. When playing the piano, she may slam the lid down, stomping off to hide out in her room, all while verbally berating herself about the inability to perform the piece perfectly. When playing her guitar, she may choose to refuse to play “live” for us, preferring to play us recordings instead. Trying to soothe her I did not recognize the role we played in her behavior.  I did know that nothing we said made her believe we enjoyed the music when it wasn’t perfect, and did not see how it robbed her of the desire to continue striving to produce music. With the book’s research tucked into my thoughts, in the past few weeks I have mindfully attempted a different level of response when it comes to Meredith and music. This weekend while Meredith played the birthday song she wrote for me, I listened intently throughout the entire song, mentally decided what I loved most about it, and when she finished, I asked her a few clarifying questions about the lyrics, followed by a completely sincere, highly focused nugget of praise. I told her that I appreciated the time she committed to writing such personal, heartfelt lyrics, and I told her I enjoyed that the song had its own unique sound. Then, because it was different from what she had written previously, I asked if she drew inspiration from any of her recent favorite artists. My response opened the door to a very interesting conversation, and lat
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First of all, I endured great agony over what to call this unbelievably delicious and delightful concoction that’s as scrumptious with a bowl of tortilla chips as it is served on top of grilled chicken or fish. Most normal people w...
First of all, I endured great agony over what to call this unbelievably delicious and delightful concoction that’s as scrumptious with a bowl of tortilla chips as it is served on top of grilled chicken or fish. Most normal people would call it Watermelon Salsa. And technically, that would be correct. Salsa, after all, is technically a garnish or sauce made with uncooked vegetables or fruit. But salsa, to me, is…well, salsa. Pureed. Liquidy. Saucy. The soupy stuff you dip your chips in. Now, pico de Gallo, on the other hand, is chunky. Colorful. Lovely, gorgeous, and fresh. And so, after much consideration and wrestling with myself, I decided to call this Watermelon Pico de Gallo. My heart led me in that direction. My soul told me it was the right thing to do. My instinct told me to go for it. My stomach told me to get over myself so I could start eating already. My stomach is so bossy sometimes. I used a seedless watermelon, which wasn’t really seedless at all. I think seedless watermelons should be called “flimsy seeded” watermelons, because the seeds are pitiful and almost nonexistent…but existent enough for me to spend the last three years pointing out to you how technically incorrect the term “seedless watermelon” is. I exhaust myself sometimes. Slice the rind off the watermelon in long strips… Going all the way around… Until it’s totally nekkid! Next, cut the watermelon into large slices… Then stack a couple of slices at a time and dice ‘em up. (Note: I only diced half the watermelon, then later wrapped the rest in plastic wrap and kept it in the fridge.) Throw the watermelon into a large bowl… Then I added chopped red onion, diced and seeded jalapeno, and diced yellow, green, and red bell peppers. I was going for color here. Did that come across? Ha. Next, a whole bunch of chopped cilantro… A leetle salt… A good squeeze of lime juice… And I tossed it all together! And here’s what’s gorgeous: Serve it with blue corn tortilla chips. Dramatic! These little frilly ones are cute, too. Enjoy this, guys! So cool and refreshing, so flavorful and different. You’ll become instantly addicted! Recipe Watermelon Pico de Gallo Prep Time: 15 Minutes Cook Time: Difficulty: Easy Servings: 12 Print Recipe Ingredients 1/2 whole Small Seedless Watermelon, Diced1/2 whole Red Onion, Diced1 whole Red Bell Pepper, Seeded And Diced1 whole Green Bell Pepper, Seeded And Finely Diced1 whole Yellow Bell Pepper, Seeded And Finely Diced2 whole Jalapeños, Seeded And Finely Diced1 whole Bunch Cilantro, Chopped2 whole Juice Of 1 To 2 Limes1/2 teaspoon Salt Preparation Instructions Throw all the ingredients into a large bowl and toss it together. Taste with a chip and adjust ingredients as needed. Serve with chips or on top of grilled chicken or fish...or as a side salad! Posted by Ree on June 19 2013
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How to throw a guest-friendly wedding bash - Love & Sex Check out these awesomely creative candy ads - Food Sail away with a Summer houseboat rental - Home Video: Make your own Isabel Marant-inspired studded belt - Fashion 18 things ...
How to throw a guest-friendly wedding bash - Love & Sex Check out these awesomely creative candy ads - Food Sail away with a Summer houseboat rental - Home Video: Make your own Isabel Marant-inspired studded belt - Fashion 18 things you never thought you could DIY - Smart Living See the first pictures from the Veronica Mars movie set - Entertainment 5 signs that your lunch needs a makeover - Fitness The royal family goes off duty - Celebrity The pros and cons of Adobe Creative Cloud - Tech Beauty treatments you'll want to get naked for - Beauty You've got to see these cats on leashes - Pets Fun ways to serve up watermelon for kids - Moms Zac Posen talks dressing celebrities and "warrior" Joe Manganiello - Fashion
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Bravo star Brad Goreski shirtless for photographer Terry Richardson.
Bravo star Brad Goreski shirtless for photographer Terry Richardson.
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Ready for this week's biggest hits and misses on The Bachelorette? Des and her boys head east to Atlantic City for a very special Mr. America pageant, featuring lots of skin and not so much talent - but we still wanted more close-ups of ...
Ready for this week's biggest hits and misses on The Bachelorette? Des and her boys head east to Atlantic City for a very special Mr. America pageant, featuring lots of skin and not so much talent - but we still wanted more close-ups of Juan Pablo in a Speedo! We also dish on the surprise stars who stole the show, the first roseless one-on-one date, and whether James made a mistake telling Des about his cheating past.
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Many women complain that intercourse alone doesn't help them climax, but maybe they just need to try out some new sex positions! Take this fun quiz to see how much you know about these different positions. (Illustrations slightly NSFW.) ...
Many women complain that intercourse alone doesn't help them climax, but maybe they just need to try out some new sex positions! Take this fun quiz to see how much you know about these different positions. (Illustrations slightly NSFW.) Source: Cosmopolitan and Shutterstock Question 1 of 10 ? Let's start with something basic. What's the name of this common sex position where the man lies on top? Missionary Neck-to-Neck Love Hug
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CLICK HERE to print a $1/2 Dentyne Ice Gum coupon. Starting 6/30 Walgreens will have them for 2 for $1, so FREE after coupon
CLICK HERE to print a $1/2 Dentyne Ice Gum coupon. Starting 6/30 Walgreens will have them for 2 for $1, so FREE after coupon
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In case you’d like to get up to speed on the minutiae of Biebs’ weird life, I’ve compiled a timeline of his drama-filled year.
In case you’d like to get up to speed on the minutiae of Biebs’ weird life, I’ve compiled a timeline of his drama-filled year.
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We've got some suggestions for Baby Kimye.
We've got some suggestions for Baby Kimye.
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